In 2015, for the first time in my life, I made a new year resolution. My takeaway from the experience is that when we look back we’ll know where the majority of our time was spent in the last year. All the big accomplishments or failures will be there right in our cognizance. But there will still be that little list of improvements that matter to us, which we consciously keep putting efforts on. The written down resolution makes us reflect on those.
This year too, I’ve made a resolution, which happens to be an upgraded version of that of the last year’s. To me, that is how it’s supposed to be. Things that are attainable items (like learning a new skill etc.) will probably not reappear in the new list but some of the lifestyle improvements will continue to stay. The current resolution piece has something that goes like this, “eat meals at the table with a glass of water — without any electronic distractions.” That sounds scary just by the name if it, isn’t it? Well, nothing is meant to be a rule to follow at all cost. If I’d found it not worth the effort, I’d drop it. The idea was to mindfully eat for the sake of developing a healthy eating habit (a glass of water with the meal inhibits over-eating and improves body metabolism) and my attempts at reducing my addiction to the virtual world. I admit, I’m addicted to the internet and well, who isn’t these days? Three months into 2016, I can safely say I have been practicing this tiny strategy fairly notable amount of time and I am quite positive about the idea of eating like this. Only the sitting-with-the-phone-away initially feels like the difficult part, but once I settle down, I find so many thoughts that start to flow into my mind, and I reflect on those with so much ease. Recollecting memories of the past, remembering family and friends, measuring pros and cons of our plans, contemplating the future, all these begin to occur in an organized manner. Now that is something I hadn’t intended. It’s a byproduct of my eating at the table. I feel like I am having a little conversation with my own mental self and I enjoy it.
That brings me back to my table obsession, Continue reading “I think I’m obsessed with Dining Tables!”
How much do people mean it when they wish you ‘Happy Birthday’?
Or ‘Happy Anything’ at all? It seems that in this clichéd world of everyone seemingly being in a race to show off fake enthusiasm, I am running in the reverse direction. I sometimes wonder nowadays, what really matters to people in the name of relationship? ‘Celebrations’? Well of course they do! But why does it only have to be in the specific form of cakes, candles, cards, and parties? To me, a perfect celebration is where one doesn’t feel compelled to show love by material means, or for that matter no obligations at all!
Continue reading “How happy are ‘Birthdays’?”
There is some or the other type of intolerance rising in India at this time, and there’s been an even greater intolerance among some people rising in the denial of the fact that ‘intolerance is indeed on the rise‘. But I am here to highlight the third set of people who hold a permanent place in the society and are always on the lookout for finding a fault with others — and have been doing an excellent job of judging them. These are the people who are intolerant to anything and everything at any point of time.
There have been few instances where they have shown remarkable display of brightness in picking up an unusual twisted side of a case and presenting it to people. Then there some more intellectual set of Facebook (or offline) Janta who do not think twice about the validity of any point of view and instantly propel them forward Continue reading “Preachers of Morality: The ones you can’t escape”
“To Help or Not to Help??”
There are people in this world who seem to just know the answer to that question. – “NO”.
Not just the answer to that question, but also an explanation on, why it’s a “NO.” Anyway, those great souls are not the subject here. I want to talk about the other bunch who are unsure of it.
To begin with, and keeping it short, —
There’s no better way to feel like a human!
But that’s not what it’s all about. It is about the fact that, sometimes a stranger’s life’s incredible amount of fate depends upon us — while we have no cognizance of it. And for that smallest amount of help that comes at the right time, one person can probably remain grateful towards you forever. I read a small piece of another person’s story here and suddenly it prompted me of an event from my own life. Continue reading “Little Tributes”
This morning I woke up to see a group chat, where a friend of mine mentioned how she eats alone at the desk because she has no lunch partner and it feels awkward to eat alone at the office cafeteria. Now this is one issue with the present-day, that many of us can totally relate to. These days in the workplace, our environment keeps changing and we can’t always find a group to sit, eat & chat with or have a cup of coffee. Sooner or later we all are going to face this fact. I too realized this only after four years of my own work life. Until then, I had only had some of the awesome friends to chat over lunch and also to share our home-cooked lunch boxes. In the year 2012, I shifted from Hyderabad to Bangalore and I encountered a very unexpected predicament there. In the office, during the lunch hours everybody except me seemed to have friends and it gripped me with a distinct sense of loneliness in hundreds of people around.
Continue reading “Cultivate Solitude”
A plethora of Facebook updates these days has overwhelmed me to the point that I feel an urge to vomit out my surveillance made over the span of my Facebook journey — also, to reveal to the mankind how grateful I am to this special feature called, ‘Unfollow’ button on Facebook with just a click of which, I can make all simpletons’ garbage of over-sentimentality disappear. Nevertheless, time and again, I do check them, because foolishness is often the source for many humorous anecdotes. By nature, all human beings enjoy attention, but the question is, how one can do so while being within the limits of dignity. When I mentally picture it all, several characters emerge who seriously fail in this Facebook madness.
Continue reading “Fake Faces on Facebook”
Remembering one of those days…
when I had had a fight with one of my parents (don’t really remember which one), and dashed off the house in anger. Then I realized, it was past nine postmeridian or so and apparently not an appropriate time to seek refuge in one of the neighbors’ houses until I had calmed down my senses to move back into the house. Right in front of the house within the compound wall, there stood a large guava tree that we used to climb onto pretty frequently. I badly wanted to get as much away as possible from the family at this time and the timing being perfectly unsuitable for being able to step out without risking myself to potential dangers lurking outside, the guava-tree seemed to be the last resort to remain out of sight while still being inside the parental-safety-circle. I climbed the tree, perched on the favorite branch and found the place as a perfect establishment for fuming out over the thoughts on what just happened inside. Continue reading “Flashback To Olden Days”
I had never made a new year resolution before. But this time around a friend of mine said to me she had made one for herself and was so serious about sticking to them that she emailed the list to her husband. That, kind of stirred me up. I always thought of making new year resolutions as stupid but suddenly for some reason (well, apparently because it came from one of the persons I take seriously) it got me into thinking, “why not give it a try?!”
So I decided to pull strings and put my thinking cap on; listed down things in my life that needed to be worked upon or improved. I neatly categorized them and mentioned few precise points against each resolution on what exactly I was going to do about them. And then I emailed them to not my husband, but to another close friend of mine. Continue reading “A new year resolution reviewed”